HELLO
EVERYBODY, AUNTY STELLA IS HERE AGAIN!!
Marriage is a fulfillment of
God’s command. Marriage is fun but it all depends on your dream and expectation
before you allow the slip on of the ring.
Before you ask Aunty Stella,
ask yourself too what really you want in marriage. Am I within that web of love
and commitment to the vows or have I stepped out? Then, do the turn around. It
is possible!!!!
Dear Aunty Stella,
I need help. We are just two
years in marriage, my wife is not employed yet and we do not have any child.
I get home from work and she
is sulking, there is no food and the house is not maintained. I have tried to talk
to her but she has remained adamant. She insists that so long as she is not
working, the status quo remains. She is driving me out of her arms and our
home. I do not like it but as it is, I have no choice.
Mr Sowunmi.
I really empathize with you.
In marriage, there are various challenges at different stages. It could be
early in the marriage, midway or later. However, It is part of the early challenges
in marriage particularly when one party is bored sitting at home. That was not
the dream. Running away from the home will not solve the problem. Show more
love, understanding and be patient. Work hard towards getting your wife a job,
find time to take her out from time to time, look beyond the present condition,
for all will be well. For your children, as soon as your mind is at peace, the
babies will start to come.
Dear Aunty Stella,
My wife of five (5) years
keeps saying maybe I am not the right man for her. I don’t know why she says
it? I play my part as husband and father, which I suppose she appreciates. The
only thing I know here is that she has friends whose husbands take them all
over the world. I have been and will continue to try my best to make them
happy. Please help me.
Mr Adejaiye
Did you people court before
your marriage? Did you give her a wrong impression of yourself? These are
normal issues that arise when people pretend when they are courting. If that
was what happened, this is the time to repair this situation. Have a heart to
heart discussion with her and let her know what you can do and what you cannot
do.
Five years seems enough time
for both of you to have started showing sincerity.
You might also be assuming
this is the reason why she makes that comment. Maybe this is a part of you that
she is just discovering. Let this be the first step you are taking to resolve
this matter. Be patient and do all you can to get her to talk with you.
Dear Aunty Stella,
I really need help. I have
been married for 8 years to a muslim. I am a Christian. Before marriage, he
promised that he would change his religion to mine (Christianity). He joined me
at fellowships and we wedded in the Church. He was a good Christian boy till
after our honeymoon. Then I started noticing signs of backsliding. I tried on
several occasions to discuss it, but he was not prepared to talk about it. We
have three children and the latest instruction is that I should no longer take
our Children to Church. On Sundays, we are at home, on Fridays, we are at home
too. I am losing it, please help me.
Mrs Iwendi.
As a Christian you should
know what the Bible says about being unevenly yoked with unbelievers. He was
only acting and you fell for it. No woman should ever imagine that she can
change a man. He acted that script to get you into marriage. That marriage has
been built on a faulty foundation.
I would advise that you discuss
the matter with the Pastor of the Church you were both attending. The Bible
talks about submitting to one another in love. He saw some good qualities in
you, so help him get back to Christ but do not abandon your faith.