Hope the first set of issues that touch the heart ministered to you. Did they help you? Thank God you are looking out for me! Wow! “Ask Aunty Stella”. My mission is to bring joy to families!
A teenage girl needed my
help. She said she was scared of disappointing her parents. In the course of
our discussion, I noticed that their expectations were so high, so high in
terms of education, family responsibilities and spiritual life.
I asked her a lot of
questions in the areas mentioned above and I was satisfied with her answers. A
very organized and promising teenager but the daily threats, warnings from her
parents were weakening her self-confidence. The danger is that once you have punctured the
confidence level of a child, you have killed the destiny of that child. I
helped her bounce back with that strong confidence that says, “I can do it, Yes
I can”.
Parents, I know we love our
children, we want the best for them to end up badly. To guard against it, we, parents
raise the banner. Please let us be careful, so we do not end up destroying them
unintentionally. Set them on the right track, pray for them, encourage them and
clap for them as they progress. No child is useless, the turnaround could come
at any stage. Please support the children!
A parent cried out to me –
my daughter is finding it difficult in her new school and her teacher says she
is not intelligent.
I advised them to give me
some time with the child. I also explained to them that children have been out
of school because of covid, and for a new student who just met her teacher,
classmates and with all the covid precautions, it would be a bit tough for an 8-year-old child to settle down. However, it was destructive for a teacher to
refer to her student as unintelligent.
When I met the young girl,
the first question I asked her was, ”Are you intelligent?” She immediately
replied, “No”, I asked why she said so, she said, because her teacher said so. I
then asked a follow up question, “do you love your teacher?” Her face dropped,
then she said, “yes”.
I gave her an essay to write
on “My class teacher”. She wrote a beautiful essay, but it revealed a
destructive teacher, “my teacher likes only intelligent children, but she beats
me because I am not intelligent”. I secretly wept when I read the essay.
First, I had to change that
mindset that she was not intelligent. She is a Christian, so I also gave her a
bible passage to memorize and say all the time especially when she encountered
challenges. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”, Philippians
4:13. I also found out her weak subjects and got a caring and motherly teacher
to take her on privately while I continued to rebuild her confidence by the
power of God.
It all worked out and we,
including her parents are thankful to God for our new, bold and very confident
daughter.
Food for thought: Parents,
will you support your daughter like this? Always listen to them, if you are too
busy or not available, please get a trusted person to fill in for you.” That
child must fulfill destiny in Jesus name”. That should be your watch word!
A teenager in SS 2 had a
bitter experience with her dad concerning her choice of career. Her father insisted
that he was not going to sponsor her in the university if she did not do
education. He had a school and his dream was to hand over his school to his
daughter. She wanted to study law.
I asked her mother’s stand
and she said, she did not say anything. I wanted to see him, she refused. I
advised her to talk with any aunty or uncle her dad loved and respected. She
tried without success.
Well, I explained to her
that not all cases end up the way we expect or dream. She is very young, she
wants to further her education, but her dad will not shift grounds. I made her
understand that no knowledge was lost. If she were to study law in America, she
would have done a first degree before proceeding to study law.
A teacher builds people all
round and gets them ready for life. A Lawyer protects the rights of the people
and gets them ready for a life that respects justice and fair play.
Moreover, she will be in
charge of a thriving business even while studying law. I advised her to go
ahead and do education and after her youth service, take over her dad’s
business like he promised and then go ahead to train herself as a lawyer.
This went down well with her
and I am still monitoring her.
Parents, that was a hard
one! Please only guide and pray for the children, allow them to follow their
passion. They will make you proud by God’s grace.
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