HELLO EVERYBODY, AUNTY STELLA IS HERE AGAIN!!

 

Marriage is a fulfillment of God’s command. Marriage is fun but it all depends on your dream and expectation before you allow the slip on of the ring.

Before you ask Aunty Stella, ask yourself too what really you want in marriage. Am I within that web of love and commitment to the vows or have I stepped out? Then, do the turn around. It is possible!!!!

 

Dear Aunty Stella,

I need help. We are just two years in marriage, my wife is not employed yet and we do not have any child.

I get home from work and she is sulking, there is no food and the house is not maintained. I have tried to talk to her but she has remained adamant. She insists that so long as she is not working, the status quo remains. She is driving me out of her arms and our home. I do not like it but as it is, I have no choice.

Mr Sowunmi.

I really empathize with you. In marriage, there are various challenges at different stages. It could be early in the marriage, midway or later. However, It is part of the early challenges in marriage particularly when one party is bored sitting at home. That was not the dream. Running away from the home will not solve the problem. Show more love, understanding and be patient. Work hard towards getting your wife a job, find time to take her out from time to time, look beyond the present condition, for all will be well. For your children, as soon as your mind is at peace, the babies will start to come.

 

 

Dear Aunty Stella,

My wife of five (5) years keeps saying maybe I am not the right man for her. I don’t know why she says it? I play my part as husband and father, which I suppose she appreciates. The only thing I know here is that she has friends whose husbands take them all over the world. I have been and will continue to try my best to make them happy. Please help me.

Mr Adejaiye

Did you people court before your marriage? Did you give her a wrong impression of yourself? These are normal issues that arise when people pretend when they are courting. If that was what happened, this is the time to repair this situation. Have a heart to heart discussion with her and let her know what you can do and what you cannot do.

Five years seems enough time for both of you to have started showing sincerity.

You might also be assuming this is the reason why she makes that comment. Maybe this is a part of you that she is just discovering. Let this be the first step you are taking to resolve this matter. Be patient and do all you can to get her to talk with you.

 

 

Dear Aunty Stella,

I really need help. I have been married for 8 years to a muslim. I am a Christian. Before marriage, he promised that he would change his religion to mine (Christianity). He joined me at fellowships and we wedded in the Church. He was a good Christian boy till after our honeymoon. Then I started noticing signs of backsliding. I tried on several occasions to discuss it, but he was not prepared to talk about it. We have three children and the latest instruction is that I should no longer take our Children to Church. On Sundays, we are at home, on Fridays, we are at home too. I am losing it, please help me.

Mrs Iwendi.

As a Christian you should know what the Bible says about being unevenly yoked with unbelievers. He was only acting and you fell for it. No woman should ever imagine that she can change a man. He acted that script to get you into marriage. That marriage has been built on a faulty foundation.

I would advise that you discuss the matter with the Pastor of the Church you were both attending. The Bible talks about submitting to one another in love. He saw some good qualities in you, so help him get back to Christ but do not abandon your faith.