Introduction

 

There is so much going on in the society and the world at large. The bad and the good,

the unimaginable! Everybody is affected but who is most hit, the kids! The kids!! It might

sound strange we have to look out for them. We work, we struggle, we go after all the

money to give them the best in life. Let us pause and ask ourselves what happens when

the children are waiting.

Have we ever imagined what will happen when we bring in all the money and the child

is no longer there??? Food for thought!!

A counselor of a school once had a chat with a 13 year old girl in his school. He wanted

to know why she was always very sad whenever it was time to go on vacation.

It turned out that she is an only child. Her mum, a top banker, her dad, a very busy

business man. She had all the gadgets to keep her company but all the domestic staff,

all 5 of them were men. They took turns to abuse her. I leave the rest to your

imagination. I now leave the rest to your imagination.

I now ask, how come for 3 years, her mother/father did not even suspect the pain that

girl was going through. Did they ever look at the sad face of their daughter? Did they

notice the way she walked? All the signs passed them by?? Parents! Please pay

attention!!!

A student in a well-known private school at a seminar once asked a serious question.

She said she read somewhere on the internet that when a lady looses her virginity but

stays away from sex for a long time, her virginity will return. Wow!!

In my heart, I wondered where her mother was. I tried to encourage the girls to be close

and open to their mothers. Then a student raised her hand and asked “what if your mum

is not there for you, what do you do? Wow! Wow!!

Definitely, there must be at least one person within the family that a teenager can relate

with very well and open up to. If none, a well-respected friend of mum or the family. It is

always good to open up to someone so as to guard against errors. So I ask where are

our mothers?

Another child at 5 years told me her dad was dead. I was alarmed because I know her

dad travelled to the U.S. I told her not to say that again because her dad is alive. The

little girl shouted, “but he is not here”! It turned out that she was not part of this whole

relocation at all and she missed his physical presence. Maybe her parents felt she was

too young to be carried along but that hurt her badly. I explained to her the situation out

there, her dad’s love for the family and his strong desire to give them a beautiful life.

The children are hurting but are not speaking up! Another food for thought.

A 6 year old child once told her mother did not love her and she shouts a lot. There was

fear and really no mother/daughter relationship or love. When I invited her, it took her

mum almost a month to respond. That, I also corrected this delay.

It turned out that the girl (let me call her girl A) had a group of friends in school and in

that group, there was a girl who kept telling them not to mind their parents especially

when they claimed that they loved them. According to her, their parents were deceiving

them. When the mother of Girl A noticed her daughter’s attitude, she investigated and

found out that she had a bad friend. She tried to separate them but did not bother to

explain to Girl A, her findings. So Girl A believed her friend and resisted her mum.

I talked with Girl A and also advised her mum to sit her down and explain the situation

which she did. I did not need any feedback because it was written all over Girl A that all

was well at home. Communication is key, no matter the age.

So what happened to the boys day out with dad or the girls day out with mum? Very

memorable times where we get to gist like friends and get real information from our

children. Everybody is busy!!!!! The children need us.

Aunty Stella is so passionate about children including Teens. Together, we can make

them better. Pls ASK AUNTY STELLA for help and get your family laughing again!!